How long should you wait for addicted spouse to clean up?
My DH and I met through recovery rooms and things were fine until he started using, I suspect just before the wedding. He was very scared when I found out but now (3 years later) he is just defensive and actually stole all my pain medication from me after I had abdominal surgery. He smokes pot to and lies right to my face about it but I have found the roaches in the “butt-huts” outside our house. He has chronic pain and functioned well when he was not using medication. Now all he does is lay on the couch and watch TV. He is regularly taking time off work due to pain or some sort of discomfort.
I spoke with his sister so the “secret” I have had for over a year is out – that feels good. I have made him an appointment for a pain management clinic – for an assessment. I am requiring him to go and I need for him to be drug free bacause as long as he has drugs available I feel that he is not respecting the fact that I am a recovering addict too (coming up on 9 years). Is this reasonable?
Sounds reasonable to me. I’d give it a year, and if you see one instance of him going back to his old ways, get rid of him. Don’t live in misery just because you “love” him. You can find love/happiness without misery.
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